Having gone through deep disappointment in a relationship once, people begin looking for a catch in their love lives, poisoning their feelings with suspiciousness.
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We’ve put together four key signs of a healthy relationship, and if all of them fit the description of your couple, then calm down and enjoy the time with your loved one. You’re on the right track.
1) You’re not trying to change each other
The first truth to be learned when entering into a relationship is pretty simple: don’t try to change your partner. Nothing good will come of it. Few listen to this advice and accept each other completely, without imposing their view on life. If you're among them, you're in luck. Either you got the perfect partner, or you’re a wise person.
It’s difficult to resist the temptation and not try to ‘reshape’ your special someone even a little, but it’s not a good idea to start doing it aggressively. Instead, find out why your partner prefers their way of doing things.
We learn a lot from our families, and if it wasn’t customary for your loved one to have dinner together and share emotions, it won’t occur to them that you need it. Find the reasons why your views on particular subjects are different and discuss them. It’s impossible to change someone, but it doesn’t mean they can’t change themselves.
2) You’re still physically attracted to each other
It's not just about sex, though it’s important as well. Have you noticed that loving people who have lived together for many years aren’t tired of holding hands, hugging, and touching each other? Physical intimacy is responsible for chemistry in relationships.
Regular hugs (even during sleep) contribute to the flow of oxytocin, which gives a sense of attachment.
There’s may also be a temporary decrease in passion. Don’t get hysterical and sort things out. Maybe you’re just tired and need a cheer-up. Some massage should help the senses come to life.
A joint trip, even a small one, may do the trick too.
Try to surprise each other in bed – there are many opportunities for this nowadays.
3) You make each other better
This sign doesn’t contradict the previous one. As a rule, this process goes without efforts from partners. By your example, love, and support, you allow each other to develop and give a feeling of security. Being interested in your partner’s life, you broaden your horizons and get to know the world better. And most importantly, you do this without coercion and serious mental expenses.
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The best changes are those that occur naturally. Try to understand your loved one again, and then you’ll be able to tell what motivates them. Offer them another view on life, and perhaps they’ll become happier. Let’s say they aren’t used to doing sports and eating properly, spending days in dating chat rooms.
Don't terrorize them with morning jogging, a fridge full of celery, and constant jealous. Ask for a run together because you’re not comfortable doing it alone. Emphasize how they help you and praise their achievements.
4) You know how to argue
Having an opinion and trying to defend it is normal, even if your loved one acts as your opponent at times. It’s not scary if your views don’t coincide. It’s important that the dispute remains a dispute, where the parties respect each other's views and reasonably state their point of view. An argument isn’t a cause for contention.
Try to understand why your conversations bring no result but without fighting. The way you communicate means a lot. Perhaps your partner terribly reacts to you raising your voice, but you don’t see a problem in it.
Turn on the imagination – imagine yourself a doctor who’s trying to explain something to a dull but important patient or a seller persuading the buyer to a disputed purchase.
You’ll notice how calmer your disputes get, and that’s the goal you wanted to achieve. Play and invent, and every argument will become an experiment, not torture.